Do you think im in the wrong here?

Well this is it basically, theres this girl ive liked since we were both yr10s, were now in yr13, and for valentines day, i brought her a chocolate heart and card, the card saying %26quot;Hope you go well at your new school - from a close friend%26quot;. We both changed schools at the same time, and we only knew each other so we stayed close, but she saw me as a %26quot;big brother%26quot; apparently, so since the heart and card were delivered anonymously, she saw the connection between my handwriting and %26quot;close friend%26quot; and instead of saying up front %26quot;i know you have feelings for me, and that%26#039;s sweet, but we should only be friends%26quot; she ignored my existence, to the point where i had to ask random people if they could see me because i thought it was just a nightmare. I talked to her over text because that%26#039;s the only way i could get to her, and we ended up having a argument. During it i said about how ive liked her for all these years, and she replied quote %26quot;i know you have, im not stupid%26quot;. Im just confused, beyond anything i have been before. I brought the heart and card to do something nice for her, ontop of all the other nice stuff i do, and it ment what it ment, Hope you like your new school, from a close friend, a friend thats been there for you, taken the blows, driven you away from suicide when all seems against you, etc etc. She is not in anyway a b*tch, S*ut, or anything offensive, shes had an extremely hard lifestyle and she envys me for it. Shes not hot, but thats fine by me, shes not ugly, but id still like her if she was, its her personallity, shes bubbly, random, intelligent, and has the best smiles and hugs. But when she ignored me, i didn%26#039;t even get a cold look, i got nothing. Ive been blaming myself for it all for this week, been depressed (dont worry im not going for suicide cuz thats just dumb), but i feel like its all my fault. Also today (being friday) i got a friend to give her a letter i wrote (well typed cuz my handwriting sucks) and a large box of chocolates. I explained everything and said all i want to be is friends, nothing more because of this very reason. According to her class, she broke down in tears and balled her eyes out at it, which surprised me (and im not saying shes heartless or anything). . Is it really my fault, or did she overreact at it? Ive probably missed heaps of stuff out about it so it might not fully make sense.|||You sound so sweet!





First off, you mentioned that she%26#039;s had a rough time. She probably doesn%26#039;t know how to respond to your affection because not many people have shown her kindness like you. It%26#039;s possible she thinks you%26#039;re ridiculing her by sending her all these gifts and letters. It%26#039;s also possible that she likes you too, but like I said, she just doesn%26#039;t know how to react. Give her time to process all this. Although she seems to have known for a while, she%26#039;s still in shock because you just confirmed it for her. She also doesn%26#039;t sound ready for a relationship, but it does sound like she needs a friend.Try not to send any more letters and things to her for a while. Wait a few days, and then go over to the school yourself, and talk to her. Texting and IMing isn%26#039;t a good way to communicate!





Good luck!|||wow....thats really wack


honestly go up to her and TALK to her , no more letters!|||wow. that%26#039;s a long strory. She probably is really emotionally unstable right now since she%26#039;s moving schools and... well... she%26#039;s a girl. The good news is, your second note most likely worked, as seen from her reaction. if she means this much to you, and you can settle for being friends, then most definitely try to talk to her, but do it in person, so she can see your genuine concern. However, if the second note pointed out her faults, she might have started crying because it hurt to have you (someone she%26#039;s obviously close to) type out her flaws. if this is the case,|||Whoa, ok, what a story! First off, I don%26#039;t think that you are wrong at all. I%26#039;m not saying she is crazy either. Perhaps she is just afraid that if something goes on between the two of tou, you will lose your friendship. You said she had a rough life, and that you have been there for her for such a long time. Maybe she doesn%26#039;t want to lose that.In case you haven%26#039;t noticed, but relationships ( between a girlfriend and boyfriend) don%26#039;t always last long or end successfully. She was probably crying in class because it was all just overwhelming her. It%26#039;s possible that she likes you to, and ultimately is just afraid. But then again, that is just my perspective on the situation. I say, give her some time, let her think about it for a while and give her some space. She%26#039;ll come around eventually, she can%26#039;t ignore you forever!





Good Luck, Hope This Helps!!! :)